Doing drugs with your kids

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This is a confusing subject. Is smoking weed doing drugs, like snorting meth, coke? Shooting H? In my mind it’s not even close. When I’d get home from work, I go to the garage and have a few bong hits, thinking I was hiding it. They both knew what I was doing. We did our best to keep them involved with sports, horseback riding, travel, music, museums. As a result they weren’t interested in it, or what I was doing in the garage. Now that they are adults, they’ve discovered the benefits. Me along with the state like California, along with some other states don’t believe smoking, or consuming weed is evil. On the contrary, it’s beneficial to users and to the states that collect the taxes.

KIDS that read this forum secretly and the parents that read this too but never sign up.. DO MORE DRUGS IN FRONT OF EACH OTHER. LIFE AIN'T THAT SERIOUS. WHY? because none of you US get out of it alive. SO PARTY IT UP NOW.

After they are 18 i don't give a shit what they do, I wouldn't bump coke with my kids, but I would smoke a joint, drink some beers, maybe have a cigarette with them.

Aylana said:

Dove also said her "man" never leaves the house so I think her "man" is really an ottoman and she is delusional.

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This her man?

Seamajor said:

This is a confusing subject. Is smoking weed doing drugs, like snorting meth, coke? Shooting H? In my mind it’s not even close. When I’d get home from work, I go to the garage and have a few bong hits, thinking I was hiding it. They both knew what I was doing. We did our best to keep them involved with sports, horseback riding, travel, music, museums. As a result they weren’t interested in it, or what I was doing in the garage. Now that they are adults, they’ve discovered the benefits. Me along with the state like California, along with some other states don’t believe smoking, or consuming weed is evil. On the contrary, it’s beneficial to users and to the states that collect the taxes.

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have you ever been high on anything other than marijuana?

Murdy said:

have you ever been high on anything other than marijuana?

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I took LSD a few times in my 20s. Tried cocaine. Hated it after the initial rush. Chocolate infused mushroom are fun if ya don’t eat too many. I really do enjoy good 2 puff weed.

Seamajor said:

I took LSD a few times in my 20s. Tried cocaine. Hated it after the initial rush. Chocolate infused mushroom are fun if ya don’t eat too many. I really do enjoy good 2 puff weed.

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Did they ever see you high on those things while you were in the garage taking those 2 puffs?

Murdy said:

Did they ever see you high on those things while you were in the garage taking those 2 puffs?

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Yes.

Seamajor said:

Yes.

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Did they ever see you high on narcotics?

No, never. Only tried blow 3 or 4 times

Seamajor said:

This is a confusing subject. Is smoking weed doing drugs, like snorting meth, coke? Shooting H? In my mind it’s not even close. When I’d get home from work, I go to the garage and have a few bong hits, thinking I was hiding it. They both knew what I was doing. We did our best to keep them involved with sports, horseback riding, travel, music, museums. As a result they weren’t interested in it, or what I was doing in the garage. Now that they are adults, they’ve discovered the benefits. Me along with the state like California, along with some other states don’t believe smoking, or consuming weed is evil. On the contrary, it’s beneficial to users and to the states that collect the taxes.

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Totally agree, and booze is more harmful than weed and people dink with their kids routinely

Seamajor said:

This is a confusing subject. Is smoking weed doing drugs, like snorting meth, coke? Shooting H? In my mind it’s not even close. When I’d get home from work, I go to the garage and have a few bong hits, thinking I was hiding it. They both knew what I was doing. We did our best to keep them involved with sports, horseback riding, travel, music, museums. As a result they weren’t interested in it, or what I was doing in the garage. Now that they are adults, they’ve discovered the benefits. Me along with the state like California, along with some other states don’t believe smoking, or consuming weed is evil. On the contrary, it’s beneficial to users and to the states that collect the taxes.

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I completely agree with this.

Alcohol is a much more dangerous and more addictive drug than some weed.

And if it didn't give me panick attacks unpredictably, I'd be using it.

My man used to keep a shit ton of edibles that helped with any MS issues he had. His mother used them as well for her cancer symptoms. He used to give me edibles all the time but I rarely ate them.

Kingoffrogs said:

This her man?

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My man doesn't keep facial hair. Nor does he wear turbins.

Kingoffrogs said:

After they are 18 i don't give a shit what they do, I wouldn't bump coke with my kids, but I would smoke a joint, drink some beers, maybe have a cigarette with them.

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Well modern mothering is a huge contest on who can infantize their kid the longest.

Breastfeeding until they are 30 and saying things like "they'll always be mommas baby!"

You know.

Dove said:

Well modern mothering is a huge contest on who can infantize their kid the longest.

Breastfeeding until they are 30 and saying things like "they'll always be mommas baby!"

You know.

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It is true that young children are infantalized significantly longer than they used to be. Interestingly, they are often dragged into the adult world younger than they used to be as well, often when they are pre-pubescent.

If you really want to ruin your kid’s childhood… hand them a cell phone.

Murdy said:

If you really want to ruin your kid’s childhood… hand them a cell phone.

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It is totally unnecessary. All mental health research on kids and phones shows how bad it is for them.

I was thinking about when I got my kids cellphones.

It wasn't until the last couple of years of high school, Jr and senior year.

I didn't get a cellphone until my son had an accident at school and I was unreachable because I was in a meeting away from my desk.

Lily said:

It is totally unnecessary. All mental health research on kids and phones shows how bad it is for them.

I was thinking about when I got my kids cellphones.

It wasn't until the last couple of years of high school, Jr and senior year.

I didn't get a cellphone until my son had an accident at school and I was unreachable because I was in a meeting away from my desk.

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Same. It wasn’t necessary until we moved out of state and didn’t have family around to fill in.

And even then… it wasn’t necessary.

I miss being unattainably present in everything.

Murdy said:

Same. It wasn’t necessary until we moved out of state and didn’t have family around to fill in.

And even then… it wasn’t necessary.

I miss being unattainably present in everything.

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I saw the cellphone as a chain as well.

Lily said:

I saw the cellphone as a chain as well.

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I was at breakfast with my daughter and her phone started ringing in the middle of a juicy conversation. I think it’s rude and would have hit the silence button… but she didn’t. She thought the girl would be offended she didn’t want to talk…

WTF

Murdy said:

I was at breakfast with my daughter and her phone started ringing in the middle of a juicy conversation. I think it’s rude and would have hit the silence button… but she didn’t. She thought the girl would be offended she didn’t want to talk…

WTF

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I like going to lunch with my lunch club. Everyone has their phone with them...some are still working...but no one is staring at their phone. Everyone is talking with one another. And the conversation is interesting...all attorneys, one businesswoman and me.

Our lunches fly by so quickly...

Murdy said:

Did they ever see you high on narcotics?

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What are narcotics in your mind? My old GF used to refer to all of it, as narcotics, while we smoked a dooby

Lily said:

It is true that young children are infantalized significantly longer than they used to be. Interestingly, they are often dragged into the adult world younger than they used to be as well, often when they are pre-pubescent.

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No they are not. That was my generation that was forced to grow up too soon. It's rare to see someone my age getting babied as an adult. Most of us wouldn't suffer it.

These kids are breastfed until high school and their mom still buys their underwear and helps them with bills into their 30s.

My kids were 5th and 6th grade when I allowed them cheap pay as you go cell phones they took when they left the house so that they could always reach me directly without needing to make a scene trying to get to a phone.

I did this because on 2 occasions my daughters wanted to reach me and the school did not let them. Same teacher. Once because my daughter started her period and had a mess and wanted to come home.

If they were school, or at a friend's house, they had a way to reach me. When they got home, the phones went into a basket I kept on the fridge.

Dove said:

No they are not. That was my generation that was forced to grow up too soon. It's rare to see someone my age getting babied as an adult. Most of us wouldn't suffer it.

These kids are breastfed until high school and their mom still buys their underwear and helps them with bills into their 30s

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Yes, they are...

I see little girls being allowed to dress like young adults, hair dyed, make up on...some as young as elementary school. All the time.

I haven't seen a woman breastfeed a child beyond a couple years old.

Where are you seeing high school kids being "breastfed"?

Lily said:

Yes. they are...

I see little girls being allowed to dress like young adults, hair dyed, make up on...some as young as elementary school. All the time.

I haven't seen a woman breastfeed a child beyond a couple years old.

Where are you seeing high school kids being "breastfed"?

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That is true. I see that too. And Squish is very girly so she's always wanting to get into the make up, dress up...all that. I'll let her wear lip oil or gloss around the house but she fights to wear it out of the house.

She doesn't win that fight...but that was never a thing with my big girls. They never cared about any of that.

I was being intentionally dramatic when I said "breast fed until high school"

Seamajor said:

What are narcotics in your mind? My old GF used to refer to all of it, as narcotics, while we smoked a dooby

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When I think of narcotics… I think of meth/crack/heroin. The life altering drugs that people rarely make it back from.

Dove said:

That is true. I see that too. And Squish is very girly so she's always wanting to get into the make up, dress up...all that. I'll let her wear lip oil or gloss around the house but she fights to wear it out of the house.

She doesn't win that fight...but that was never a thing with my big girls. They never cared about any of that.

I was being intentionally dramatic when I said "breast fed until high school"

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Yes, I know you were being dramatic.

Kids may not understand when they're kids...but adulthood goes on for decades. The relatively carefree days of childhood are short.

When my grandson stays with me, he wants screen time too.

I am reading The Wind in the Willows to him. He had trouble at first. The language is rich, the topic outside of his day to day life...I started doing voices and sounds and managed to capture his interest.

Now he wants to try canoeing. Good thing we have a canoe my guy can take him out in.

I fervently believe that there should be part of our childhoods spent out in the natural world.

My siblings and I spent hours at rivers and lakes as children. I cherish those memories and that time in the sun, clear blue sky, rippling rapids of a cold river fed by the snow melt of the Sierras...trying to catch tadpoles among the river rocks...

That is a wonderful way of being a child...

*spits* at cell phones

Lily said:

Yes, I know you were being dramatic.

Kids may not understand when they're kids...but adulthood goes on for decades. The relatively carefree days of childhood are short.

When my grandson stays with me, he wants screen time too.

I am reading The Wind in the Willows to him. He had trouble at first. The language is rich, the topic outside of his day to day life...I started doing voices and sounds and managed to capture his interest.

Now he wants to try canoeing. Good thing we have a canoe my guy can take him out in.

I fervently believe that there should be part of our childhoods spent out in the natural world.

My siblings and I spent hours at rivers and lakes as children. I cherish those memories and that time in the sun, clear blue sky, rippling rapids of a cold river fed by the snow melt of the Sierras...trying to catch tadpoles among the river rocks...

That is a wonderful way of being a child...

*spits* at cell phones

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Your idea of childhood is age appropriate and from a much different world. These kids are growing up with a natural AND a digital world.

Mine did (and do) a variety of everything. We spend a ton of time outside. We do projects like growing butterflies, making landscapes, painting, using rocks and leaves....going to the local parks (there are bigger ones here).

Then they also have screen time. Now there are more educational games and apps (Squish likes ABC mouse).

When I teach them about navigating the world, the digital world has to be included because it's a big part of life now.

I'm a gen xer so my childhood looks MUCH different than my children's (gen zs and a gen alpha) childhood. I was thrown out of the house and stayed out running the streets with a gang of other kids until the street lights came on.

Childhood is brief yes but it's a time when they are constantly learning and preparing for the next stages of their life. I'm not saying you do this but some people who say that "childhood is just a short time and I want them to be children" really infantize their kids and the kids end up kinda....spoiled, chronic babies who struggle to adjust.

My 7 year old is very much a 7 year old. But I let her cook and do chores. She scrambles her own eggs, makes sandwiches and bakes from scratch (all with super vision...I don't just let her have at the stove all by herself no matter how bad she wants me to). Some would say she's "growing too fast"....and I would disagree. 7 year olds are very smart, capable and competent when given the chance and when they wanna earn some respect they take it very seriously. They wanna be seen as "big kids"....and be able to retreat back to the safety of being the baby.

It's a great age to teach things like boundaries, consent, responsibilities. And it sticks.