And do you think those labels matter? Are they helpful? Or are they stupid, pointless, demeaning?
I'm a "socialized" introvert. I can be social because of my cultural background that is rooted in an extended family and friends. But, I'm a natural introvert. Being social drains my energy and I need time alone.
I don't think they're demeaning. It's just a method of trying to identify different personality types. That being said, I don't think it's a binary thing. I think it's more of a spectrum.
Same as Lily for me. I consider myself somewhere in the middle on the introvert/extrovert spectrum.
I'm very sociable when I'm in groups but I keep my time in groups to a minimum serviceable level.
If given the choice, I prefer solitude and silence. But 'll join in the revelry if there's a gang plopped in around me.
Also, who I'm with will have an impact on whether I'm more of an introvert or an extrovert in that specific circumstance. Some groups are comfortable with "thinking pauses" whereas other groups require that every interstice be bursting with social juice.
I do notice something about myself, though: when alcohol is flowing liberally and people start animatedly talking over each other--nobody actually hearing what anybody else is actually saying--in a mad dash for mirth and merriment, I tend to go silent and focused in an attempt to find even one convo thread I can follow.
Like Lily said, it's draining. And I start dreaming of picking my book back up at home.
I like my peace and quiet moreso the older I get.
I was always going through my 20s. I'm totally able to be the life of the party and make my own fun and others like to join me in it.
But.... I have my issues and need my down time and quiet. If I go out in the wrong mindset I'll be a ball of anxiety and I get over loaded or over stimulated easily. I really enjoy people and I prefer being able to give my whole attention to them.
These days ill plan lunch or an putting with a friend a week or two in advance and I always leave room for an out just in case. And the same is done on the other end....so it's cool. I usually never cancel.
I'm supposed to go to a wedding tomorrow but it's looking like it's not happening. We have had some germs moving around the house.
I like my peace and quiet moreso the older I get.
I was always going through my 20s. I'm totally able to be the life of the party and make my own fun and others like to join me in it.
But.... I have my issues and need my down time and quiet. If I go out in the wrong mindset I'll be a ball of anxiety and I get over loaded or over stimulated easily. I really enjoy people and I prefer being able to give my whole attention to them.
These days ill plan lunch or an putting with a friend a week or two in advance and I always leave room for an out just in case. And the same is done on the other end....so it's cool. I usually never cancel.
I'm supposed to go to a wedding tomorrow but it's looking like it's not happening. We have had some germs moving around the house.
I had issues in my youth but I got past them.... TRYING to get past them never solved the problem.
Surrendering yourself to chaos DID help me get past everything.... and kids... caring about offspring elevates your head space and tells you "it's not about you, it's about them"...
So you'll do anything for your kids, within reason.... and by doing that, your issues suddenly become inconsequential.... then NON issues.
I like my peace and quiet moreso the older I get.
I was always going through my 20s. I'm totally able to be the life of the party and make my own fun and others like to join me in it.
But.... I have my issues and need my down time and quiet. If I go out in the wrong mindset I'll be a ball of anxiety and I get over loaded or over stimulated easily. I really enjoy people and I prefer being able to give my whole attention to them.
These days ill plan lunch or an putting with a friend a week or two in advance and I always leave room for an out just in case. And the same is done on the other end....so it's cool. I usually never cancel.
I'm supposed to go to a wedding tomorrow but it's looking like it's not happening. We have had some germs moving around the house.
I had issues in my youth but I got past them.... TRYING to get past them never solved the problem.
Surrendering yourself to chaos DID help me get past everything.... and kids... caring about offspring elevates your head space and tells you "it's not about you, it's about them"...
So you'll do anything for your kids, within reason.... and by doing that, your issues suddenly become inconsequential.... then NON issues.
Having a kid was a game changer for me. Changes everything.
Suddenly becoming single AND your kid moving out, was also a game changer lol.
I like my peace and quiet moreso the older I get.
I was always going through my 20s. I'm totally able to be the life of the party and make my own fun and others like to join me in it.
But.... I have my issues and need my down time and quiet. If I go out in the wrong mindset I'll be a ball of anxiety and I get over loaded or over stimulated easily. I really enjoy people and I prefer being able to give my whole attention to them.
These days ill plan lunch or an putting with a friend a week or two in advance and I always leave room for an out just in case. And the same is done on the other end....so it's cool. I usually never cancel.
I'm supposed to go to a wedding tomorrow but it's looking like it's not happening. We have had some germs moving around the house.
I had issues in my youth but I got past them.... TRYING to get past them never solved the problem.
Surrendering yourself to chaos DID help me get past everything.... and kids... caring about offspring elevates your head space and tells you "it's not about you, it's about them"...
So you'll do anything for your kids, within reason.... and by doing that, your issues suddenly become inconsequential.... then NON issues.
Having a kid was a game changer for me. Changes everything.
Suddenly becoming single AND your kid moving out, was also a game changer lol.
So you're more social now?
Introvert. I very carefully choose my friends.
Introvert.. Alone is bestest :D
HAHA... I'm sure you'd convert me to full-blown extrovert, Blazor..Introvert.. Alone is bestest :D
Not true!!!
Lol, you would have a blast hanging with me, promise! Then we invite Weeg and have a pizza party!
HAHA... I'm sure you'd convert me to full-blown extrovert, Blazor..Introvert.. Alone is bestest :D
Not true!!!
Lol, you would have a blast hanging with me, promise! Then we invite Weeg and have a pizza party!
HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol
HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol
Lol, so last night I wound up at a brewery, where 7 other friends met up, and we did a trivia thing. We got 3rd place in both rounds out of 20 groups.
Then one friend said "its only 9 o'clock, lets go do karaoke!" lol. So off I went, sang til 1am lol. Ended with Puff the Magic Tampon hahaha. Did Joy to the World, Monster Mash, Fortunate Son, and Dragula, cant remember a couple others I did with my friend.
My parents weren't very affectionate when I was young..no hugs or kisses.. maybe once or twice in my childhood. So, yeah.. I've always been awkward when showing affection in social gatherings.. I remember meeting my ex's family, who were huggy kissy types.. and yeah.. It was extremely awkward and uncomfortable for me. (they actually made fun of me for it.. guess because I was so stiff when they hugged me hahahaha) I've gotten better.. but still have a little anxiety about that kind of stuff..HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol
I'm exactly the same but I care for my wife's family members too... my wife's youngest sibling made it a point to hug me while I squirmed for decades... (I'm not a huggy or kissy person)... then she transferred that momentum towards my mother in law... and fuck me running, I feel good hugging her and she feels good hugging me.
It's become a thing... I don't know why or how it did.... but it's a thing.
My wife and I got married in the 90's...separated after a few years... (youth troubles)... and were hard and fast friends until 2010.... but her family never shut me out. They regularly invited me to visit them...but I never did... I never thought it was proper.
A few years ago my father in law asked me if her and I were real.... and I said "till the end"...
But they always treated me like that anyway... and whatever my inlaw cousins did or do, it's all inclusive.
I have the best inlaw family out there... just a shame that they harp on about vaccines.... and/but I will be inclusive back at them.