My guess is that Biggy posted this thread because he was frustrated, as one of his children was estranged and refusing to speak with him. To take the guess a bit further, I'll say it was due to parental alienation on the part of the mother. Same thing happened to me. Even though we don't want to, we tend to blame the kids to some extent even though it's not "their fault" and their actions and attitude towards the targeted parent are typically the result of nothing less than brainwashing on the part of the alienating parent.