That chick needs to mind her own side of the street. That's a common theme in AA & Al-Anon. Being personally responsible begins with personal responsibility.
Someone told me once that if rocks in the river are the problem... by us flowing over them; we are just covering the problem. The problem needs exposed to be fixed. Not glossed over.
Helping her was good service work for you; but at some point she obviously needs to confront herself or root of the problem will never be addressed.
The last I heard of her, she went into an LPN program. Accelerated. Im not sure if she finished or not.
She was able to get funding through MI Works program and someone paid for some of it.
I hope shes doing good but she kinda fell out of the community. Which is either really good or really bad. When that girl entered the program she was very timid and she didnt even know how to properly groom herself. She had been neglected her entire childhood. When I say properly groom...I mean all the normal basic things like, she didnt know how to properly WIPE so she was wiping back to front and kept getting infections. She barely had any clothes. She didnt know how to wash her hair right or anything. It was SO sad and yes we all helped her.
A few of us just kinda stepped and mothered her a bit and she had been starved of that. She got a bit TOO dependent on us though and she'd get a hell of an attitude when we brought the tough love.
You're absolutely right too. Personal responsibility is key. My problem was always being OVERLY responsible for others. I was a "parentified" child always taking care of my abusive drunk of a mother. Messed me all up.
