What Would You Do Or Feel If You Were Diagnosed With Terminal Cancer?

[Flynn]

This kind of hits close to home.

Though I never had/have cancer, my mother-in-law died of skin cancer, the Melanoma variety. And she was really at peace with it. I mean she had gotten diagnosed 14 days before she passed, and the only signs were a big giant sore in her leg she had let fester for two years, as it metastaticized to her liver, and occasional side pain. Other than that, she was walking, eating, driving, shopping, gardening, and walking the dog. Just 14 days later she was gone. That shocked me! I thought we had at least another year with her according to her prognosis.

So my question is what would you do or feel if you were diagnosed with terminal cancer?

I know that for me it would be grief, and then acceptance. No denials, but my family would be in my mind the whole time. I think leaving your loved one's is the hardest part in situations like these. At least for me it would be.

I would just live life and enjoy the few remaining days I had.

 

[Admin.]

I have to return some videotapes.

 

[Flynn]

I have to return some videotapes.

Explain.

 

[Jack]

I have to return some videotapes.

Is this a Patrick Bateman quote?

 

[The Prowler]

Is this a Patrick Bateman quote?

Fuck you are an ass-kissing little faggot.

You already gave A_dim a little FagFist emoji, and you do not even know what he meant.

You loser.

 

[Admin.]

Explain.

I would try and tie up any loose ends that I have, to ease things for those left behind. Otherwise try to do as much living as possible while I can.

 

[The Atomic Punk]

I'd work to make things as easy as possible for the ones that would be left here afterwards.......liquidate the race program and other vehicles.........set up contractors to maintain the property, and then head to the beach and do gin and tonics if it was a short stay, or just live like every day was my last.

Not one shred of fear or trepidation I possess......"saved and sanctified I am"



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"The Great Gig In The Sky"

"And I am not frightened of dying, any time will do, I don't mind
Why should I be frightened of dying?
There's no reason for it, you've gotta go sometime

I never said I was frightened to die"

TAP

 

[Admin.]

Fuck you are an ass-kissing little faggot.

You already gave A_dim a little FagFist emoji, and you do not even know what he meant.

You loser.

Mind your own business butt munch.

 

[Flynn]

I would try and tie up any loose ends that I have, to ease things for those left behind. Otherwise try to do as much living as possible while I can.

All that has to do with a video tape?

Help me out here, I'm lost.

 

[Admin.]

All that has to do with a video tape?

Help me out here, I'm lost.

Loose ends.

 

[Flynn]

Loose ends.

Ok then!

Like you, all of the poster's said they would live their lives, while trying to change other lives for the better.

I still have faith in humanity. Not one of you said they were going on a mass shooting. Thank you.

 

[Admin.]

Ok then!

Like you, all of the poster's said they would live their lives, while trying to change other lives for the better.

I still have faith in humanity. Not one of said they were going on a mass shooting. Thank you.

As if I would give you average Joe’s a warning? Perish the thought.

 

[Flynn]

As if I would give you average Joe’s a warning? Perish the thought.

Just make sure to tuck in your dick back into your pants, so you don't accidentally shoot if off with your Nerf gun.

 

[Dove]

Grief, anxiety and acceptance. I don't want to die terrified or fighting it.

I worked in hospice for a few years. Working with people at the end of their life is humbling and will take you places in your mind about your own mortality.

In fact working in the medical field it really amazes me how utterly fragile life truly is AND how incredibly resilient our bodies are. I know that's a contradiction. And it is. But it's a true one.

People tend to die how they lived. If you are an anxious, and angry person in life? You'll probably die afraid and angry. If you were a more present and accepting person in life? You will die peacefully accepting it. An older nurse told me that when I first started on hospice and it was generally true. You always have those outliers though.

I'd make sure my children were able to do what they wanted with me. Whatever way of laying me to rest will help them most. If anything happened to me right now, my oldest daughter would be making the decisions which both of us are completely good with. That will change when I'm married obviously but she would probably do what he wants done.

I mean. It's my corpse. I don't have any strong feelings about it. I won't be in it anymore. It's going to be about them and what they need to do to grieve because I won't even be here.

If it were just up to me, I'd like my corpse to be dumped in the woods and consumed by animals. But that's illegal.

My 19 year old had a boyfriend when she was 16 and his step mother was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer and died a month later. It was SO fast. She had symptoms that she ignored for a long time. Sharp shooting pains, feeling winded.

We can't gamble on things like that at our age.

 

[Flynn]

Grief, anxiety and acceptance. I don't want to die terrified or fighting it.

I worked in hospice for a few years. Working with people at the end of their life is humbling and will take you places in your mind about your own mortality.

In fact working in the medical field it really amazes me how utterly fragile life truly is AND how incredibly resilient our bodies are. I know that's a contradiction. And it is. But it's a true one.

People tend to die how they lived. If you are an anxious, and angry person in life? You'll probably die afraid and angry. If you were a more present and accepting person in life? You will die peacefully accepting it. An older nurse told me that when I first started on hospice and it was generally true. You always have those outliers though.

I'd make sure my children were able to do what they wanted with me. Whatever way of laying me to rest will help them most. If anything happened to me right now, my oldest daughter would be making the decisions which both of us are completely good with. That will change when I'm married obviously but she would probably do what he wants done.

I mean. It's my corpse. I don't have any strong feelings about it. I won't be in it anymore. It's going to be about them and what they need to do to grieve because I won't even be here.

If it were just up to me, I'd like my corpse to be dumped in the woods and consumed by animals. But that's illegal.

My 19 year old had a boyfriend when she was 16 and his step mother was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer and died a month later. It was SO fast. She had symptoms that she ignored for a long time. Sharp shooting pains, feeling winded.

We can't gamble on things like that at our age.

I would hope that anyone is a position of being terminal would have all their loved ones around them. I think it's soo sad when someone has to die alone or with a complete stranger.

Cancer sucks. I hate how it just takes people without a second thought. It hurts more than the person diagnosed with Cancer. It sends a Shockwave through the whole family. And from what I've seen and read, Cancer isn't a nice disease, it's painful in some instances, and likes to spread, sometimes fast, sometimes slow.

That's sad. That Cancer took your daughters boyfriend's stepmom in a month. That's soo scary and typical of Cancer. We just never know how we're leaving this life. Like you all, I would feel just like you and everyone who posted in this thread.

When we die, our pain is over.

 

[Jack]

Fuck you are an ass-kissing little faggot.

You already gave A_dim a little FagFist emoji, and you do not even know what he meant.

You loser.

Ah, so then it is!

Hahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[The Prowler]

Grade A Fuckwit Alert!!!!!

Ah, so then I am a retard who has no fuckin' idea what is happening!

Hahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!

Senile @Jack is as dumb as a brick.

 

[Joe]

This kind of hits close to home.

Though I never had/have cancer, my mother-in-law died of skin cancer, the Melanoma variety. And she was really at peace with it. I mean she had gotten diagnosed 14 days before she passed, and the only signs were a big giant sore in her leg she had let fester for two years, as it metastaticized to her liver, and occasional side pain. Other than that, she was walking, eating, driving, shopping, gardening, and walking the dog. Just 14 days later she was gone. That shocked me! I thought we had at least another year with her according to her prognosis.

So my question is what would you do or feel if you were diagnosed with terminal cancer?

I know that for me it would be grief, and then acceptance. No denials, but my family would be in my mind the whole time. I think leaving your loved one's is the hardest part in situations like these. At least for me it would be.

I would just live life and enjoy the few remaining days I had.

Try ta live it up b'fore ya get cancer or some other illness @Flynn

Anyway I was kinda thinking about this subject lately when I see these octagenarians+ pushing their wheelchair carts thru my neighborhood.

And tho everyone has a right to live as long as they want, by that time it's a wasted existence. It's too late to enjoy life & go Wild. May as well be fucking dead. I know that sounds rather hard hearted but the reality is people only have so much time.

People should try to achieve something of significance before they get too old. And that doesn't mean a person needs be an academic or great artist. I met this 80+ year old man who restored a 100 year old Ford Model T to Mint condition. It looked like an automative version of the Sistine Chapel. And he was running a side business in retirement to boot. He was of limited education but he was still flourishing in retirement and rich too. He was an auto body repair specialist during his working life. Not bad for a guy with at max a grade 12 education.

Point being hes made the best of his existence and whatever training or education he was provided with. So he really made an impression which is to leave a positive mark & to achieve to fullest with whatever gifts, skills or talents one has been provided with in life.

 

[Dove]

I would hope that anyone is a position of being terminal would have all their loved ones around them. I think it's soo sad when someone has to die alone or with a complete stranger.

Cancer sucks. I hate how it just takes people without a second thought. It hurts more than the person diagnosed with Cancer. It sends a Shockwave through the whole family. And from what I've seen and read, Cancer isn't a nice disease, it's painful in some instances, and likes to spread, sometimes fast, sometimes slow.

That's sad. That Cancer took your daughters boyfriend's stepmom in a month. That's soo scary and typical of Cancer. We just never know how we're leaving this life. Like you all, I would feel just like you and everyone who posted in this thread.

When we die, our pain is over.

Cancer is absolutely brutal.

My grandmother (who raised me) was diagnosed with colon cancer and she was gone 8 months layer. She died at home. We had hospice coming to the house, but a lot of her care was given by me and her younger sister.

At first she tried to fight. But she was 78 years old and the chemo was just wrecking her. She was so sick. And her odds of a meaningful recovery were pretty low. She actually asked me how I would feel if she chose to stop chemo and entered hospice. It was a devastating conversation. I was grandma little baby. I was so close and attached to her.

But I didn't want to watch her suffer too death on chemo so I told her this was up to her and I'm okay with whatever SHE wanted to do and that I'd be okay here.

I was NOT okay at all. But I faked it like a pro.

She's been gone now for 23 years and I can still hear her voice in my mind when I think of her.

She was one of the best women who ever lived IMO. She was the warmest, most genuinely kind person you could know. Everyone who knew her, loved her.

Cancer is brutal and a merciless killer. It's scary because it isn't something you catch. It's literally your own cells mutating and killing you.

Even animals get it. One of the cats I homed, the family that adopted him contacted me and said he passed away because he was "full of cancer". He showed NO signs of having cancer. None. And he was "full" of cancer.

I have seen people die alone. No family. They were either abusive to their families and the family washed their hands of that person....or they just simply ended up alone. Anytime I see that, I withhold my judgement. It's vert sad. But we don't know why that person's family isn't coming and they likely have a very good reason.

I would sit with patients who were dying alone sometimes when I had free time. Because it really is sad.

I'm blessed. Mine won't even leave me alone when I'm in that bathroom lol. The girls would even come crawl into the bathtub with me and now they'll come right in when I'm in the shower and sit on the floor and yack at me while I shave.

Keeping me posted on all their young woman dramas lol

 

[Seamajor]

I’d think back and remember all the things that made my life great. Then close my eyes

 

[Dove]

Try ta live it up b'fore ya get cancer or some other illness @Flynn

Anyway I was kinda thinking about this subject lately when I see these octagenarians+ pushing their wheelchair carts thru my neighborhood.

And tho everyone has a right to live as long as they want, by that time it's a wasted existence. It's too late to enjoy life & go Wild. May as well be fucking dead. I know that sounds rather hard hearted but the reality is people only have so much time.

People should try to achieve something of significance before they get too old. And that doesn't mean a person needs be an academic or great artist. I met this 80+ year old man who restored a 100 year old Ford Model T to Mint condition. It looked like an automative version of the Sistine Chapel. And he was running a side business in retirement to boot. He was of limited education but he was still flourishing in retirement and rich too. He was an auto body repair specialist during his working life. Not bad for a guy with at max a grade 12 education.

Point being hes made the best of his existence and whatever training or education he was provided with. So he really made an impression which is to leave a positive mark & to achieve to fullest with whatever gifts, skills or talents one has been provided with in life.

I agree with you. Our time here is short. We ought to make the most of it.

 

[Joe]

Cancer is absolutely brutal.

My grandmother (who raised me) was diagnosed with colon cancer and she was gone 8 months layer. She died at home. We had hospice coming to the house, but a lot of her care was given by me and her younger sister.

At first she tried to fight. But she was 78 years old and the chemo was just wrecking her. She was so sick. And her odds of a meaningful recovery were pretty low. She actually asked me how I would feel if she chose to stop chemo and entered hospice. It was a devastating conversation. I was grandma little baby. I was so close and attached to her.

But I didn't want to watch her suffer too death on chemo so I told her this was up to her and I'm okay with whatever SHE wanted to do and that I'd be okay here.

I was NOT okay at all. But I faked it like a pro.

She's been gone now for 23 years and I can still hear her voice in my mind when I think of her.

She was one of the best women who ever lived IMO. She was the warmest, most genuinely kind person you could know. Everyone who knew her, loved her.

Cancer is brutal and a merciless killer. It's scary because it isn't something you catch. It's literally your own cells mutating and killing you.

Even animals get it. One of the cats I homed, the family that adopted him contacted me and said he passed away because he was "full of cancer". He showed NO signs of having cancer. None. And he was "full" of cancer.

I have seen people die alone. No family. They were either abusive to their families and the family washed their hands of that person....or they just simply ended up alone. Anytime I see that, I withhold my judgement. It's vert sad. But we don't know why that person's family isn't coming and they likely have a very good reason.

I would sit with patients who were dying alone sometimes when I had free time. Because it really is sad.

I'm blessed. Mine won't even leave me alone when I'm in that bathroom lol. The girls would even come crawl into the bathtub with me and now they'll come right in when I'm in the shower and sit on the floor and yack at me while I shave.

Keeping me posted on all their young woman dramas lol

Sorry to hear @Dove.

Yeah I don't need ta live beyond my time.

I saw both of my beloved parents pass away. It was painful and still is just to think about it.

Had a dream my mother visited me last night. It was a pleasant dream til I woke up & realized it wasn't real.

However I think there is an afterlife where you see your loved ones again

 

[Admin.]

I have to return some videotapes.

 

[Dove]

Sorry to hear @Dove.

Yeah I don't need ta live beyond my time.

I saw both of my beloved parents pass away. It was painful and still is just to think about it.

Had a dream my mother visited me last night. It was a pleasant dream til I woke up & realized it wasn't real.

However I think there is an afterlife where you see your loved ones again

One time I had one of those really lucid dreams where I was in the house I grew up in...and the phone rang and it was grandma. And I was telling her about my daughters and she was so excited. And then she told me she had to go and I woke up.

If I got diagnosed with cancer, if I had decent odds of a meaningful recovery, I'm fighting it. If not? I'll go peacefully.

We all have our last day.

 

[Flynn]

Cancer is absolutely brutal.

My grandmother (who raised me) was diagnosed with colon cancer and she was gone 8 months layer. She died at home. We had hospice coming to the house, but a lot of her care was given by me and her younger sister.

At first she tried to fight. But she was 78 years old and the chemo was just wrecking her. She was so sick. And her odds of a meaningful recovery were pretty low. She actually asked me how I would feel if she chose to stop chemo and entered hospice. It was a devastating conversation. I was grandma little baby. I was so close and attached to her.

But I didn't want to watch her suffer too death on chemo so I told her this was up to her and I'm okay with whatever SHE wanted to do and that I'd be okay here.

I was NOT okay at all. But I faked it like a pro.

She's been gone now for 23 years and I can still hear her voice in my mind when I think of her.

She was one of the best women who ever lived IMO. She was the warmest, most genuinely kind person you could know. Everyone who knew her, loved her.

Cancer is brutal and a merciless killer. It's scary because it isn't something you catch. It's literally your own cells mutating and killing you.

Even animals get it. One of the cats I homed, the family that adopted him contacted me and said he passed away because he was "full of cancer". He showed NO signs of having cancer. None. And he was "full" of cancer.

I have seen people die alone. No family. They were either abusive to their families and the family washed their hands of that person....or they just simply ended up alone. Anytime I see that, I withhold my judgement. It's vert sad. But we don't know why that person's family isn't coming and they likely have a very good reason.

I would sit with patients who were dying alone sometimes when I had free time. Because it really is sad.

I'm blessed. Mine won't even leave me alone when I'm in that bathroom lol. The girls would even come crawl into the bathtub with me and now they'll come right in when I'm in the shower and sit on the floor and yack at me while I shave.

Keeping me posted on all their young woman dramas lol

Soo very sad indeed.

Like I said before, it's the worst when someone has to die alone. I'm glad you have a great support system, some people don't have that. There's nothing like family. I'm starting to realize how important family is as I get older.

 

[Flynn]

Try ta live it up b'fore ya get cancer or some other illness @Flynn

Anyway I was kinda thinking about this subject lately when I see these octagenarians+ pushing their wheelchair carts thru my neighborhood.

And tho everyone has a right to live as long as they want, by that time it's a wasted existence. It's too late to enjoy life & go Wild. May as well be fucking dead. I know that sounds rather hard hearted but the reality is people only have so much time.

People should try to achieve something of significance before they get too old. And that doesn't mean a person needs be an academic or great artist. I met this 80+ year old man who restored a 100 year old Ford Model T to Mint condition. It looked like an automative version of the Sistine Chapel. And he was running a side business in retirement to boot. He was of limited education but he was still flourishing in retirement and rich too. He was an auto body repair specialist during his working life. Not bad for a guy with at max a grade 12 education.

Point being hes made the best of his existence and whatever training or education he was provided with. So he really made an impression which is to leave a positive mark & to achieve to fullest with whatever gifts, skills or talents one has been provided with in life.

Thank you, Joe. I appreciate your response. That's very good advice. More people should just live their lives.

'May you live long, and prosper, Joe."

 

[Flynn]

I’d think back and remember all the things that made my life great. Then close my eyes

What a way to go.

Remembering all those great times with friends, and family. Knowing that they will be the last thing you see before you pass. Feeling their love as your soul leaves this earthly body.

 

[Reggie_Essent]

We all gotta go.

I'm cool with it.

 

[Adam Hitler]

This kind of hits close to home.

Though I never had/have cancer, my mother-in-law died of skin cancer, the Melanoma variety. And she was really at peace with it. I mean she had gotten diagnosed 14 days before she passed, and the only signs were a big giant sore in her leg she had let fester for two years, as it metastaticized to her liver, and occasional side pain. Other than that, she was walking, eating, driving, shopping, gardening, and walking the dog. Just 14 days later she was gone. That shocked me! I thought we had at least another year with her according to her prognosis.

WHy on earth did she leave it that long ?

I used to hammer the sunbeds in my younger days, despite knowing the risks of skin cancer, because I wanted to look my best, so I do occasionally get the nagging feeling that one day I might get it.

Dunno what I'd do to be honest, I guess it depends how fucked up I was. Have the blowout of blowouts probably and go out on my terms, rather than allow myself to deteriorate.

 

[The Cuntess]

I’d be scared and pray 24/7. My family is set God forbid it ever happens.

I get my bloodwork and tests done every year.