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So, a family friend, he was just 2 when I met him when I was a senior in college, is irreverent as his father taught him to be. His childhood dog died years ago and was cremated. Dog's remains remained in the trunk of the car for several years. Can't remember dog's name. My kids and this young man are like siblings. Their fathers were bff's. My kids would razz him about dog in the trunk. When and where are you going to put the dog...? He'd take the jokes and make more jokes about the situation.
This young man's father died about 8 months before my kid's dad died too. Both from cancer. His dad was cremated too, and yep, he was put in the trunk. The joke my kids made was about the dog and the dad being reunited. All in humor, probably to mask the pain, but nevertheless these jokes continue back and forth.
And my daughter has her dad in her closet. She is thinking about taking spreading some of his ashes at his parents grave, but taking the rest to Chile to release them into the Pacific in the port city where he was from.
There is no rush, process the pain first.
That sounds lovely.
There are so many options. With the landscaping of my yard still on the distant horizon, I might have to make a memorial tree for my father.
There was a large tree on the patio of the rehab facility. We used to sit out there during visiting hours so he could get sun and fresh air.
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing. I think you should all go when she does that in Chili. Just a thought xoxo