Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

[Dove]

I'm only physically affectionate with those I'm bonded with.

I can very affectionate towards those I'm close too.....others, not so much.

 

[Jeannie]

im middle of the road and can go either way, really depends on the company

 

[Sindy666]

What... with my smile and laugh, you cant resist to follow me somewhere fun lol.

Then it turns out to be a KKK meeting and that's why you haven't been laid in 15 years and spend every weekend on here lol.

 

[Blazor]

HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol

I'm exactly the same but I care for my wife's family members too... my wife's youngest sibling made it a point to hug me while I squirmed for decades... (I'm not a huggy or kissy person)... then she transferred that momentum towards my mother in law... and fuck me running, I feel good hugging her and she feels good hugging me.

It's become a thing... I don't know why or how it did.... but it's a thing.

My wife and I got married in the 90's...separated after a few years... (youth troubles)... and were hard and fast friends until 2010.... but her family never shut me out. They regularly invited me to visit them...but I never did... I never thought it was proper.

A few years ago my father in law asked me if her and I were real.... and I said "till the end"...


But they always treated me like that anyway... and whatever my inlaw cousins did or do, it's all inclusive.

I have the best inlaw family out there... just a shame that they harp on about vaccines.... and/but I will be inclusive back at them.

Im the same man, I had/have the best in laws from my wife. I still call my father in law dad, since he the only one I got, and I was his only "son". Well, he has another son in law from his other daughter, but they dont count him lol. The mom in law literally called him a lazy no good for nothing nigger back in the day hahaha. They always told me I was the favorite son in law lol. I still hang with my father in law and sister in law. Her kids I always considered my nieces and nephews cause I've known them since they were born. Im uncle Blaze to them lol. I worry about my niece. Shes smart, but the university has brain washed her.

 

[Blazor]

I'm only physically affectionate with those I'm bonded with.

I can very affectionate towards those I'm close too.....others, not so much.

I hug complete strangers lol.

I love hugs, and I give good hugs lol.

Hugged a gay black guy last night. It was his birthday, and my friend told him it was mine this week, so he came in for a hug, and we squeezed lol. No homo or anything. But he did say "Im SO gonna watch you leave" lol. I just laugh that kind of stuff off lol. Not gonna lie, he had an amazing voice when he sang. Prolly about 25 years old.

 

[Frood]

HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol

I'm exactly the same but I care for my wife's family members too... my wife's youngest sibling made it a point to hug me while I squirmed for decades... (I'm not a huggy or kissy person)... then she transferred that momentum towards my mother in law... and fuck me running, I feel good hugging her and she feels good hugging me.

It's become a thing... I don't know why or how it did.... but it's a thing.

My wife and I got married in the 90's...separated after a few years... (youth troubles)... and were hard and fast friends until 2010.... but her family never shut me out. They regularly invited me to visit them...but I never did... I never thought it was proper.

A few years ago my father in law asked me if her and I were real.... and I said "till the end"...


But they always treated me like that anyway... and whatever my inlaw cousins did or do, it's all inclusive.

I have the best inlaw family out there... just a shame that they harp on about vaccines.... and/but I will be inclusive back at them.

My parents weren't very affectionate when I was young..no hugs or kisses.. maybe once or twice in my childhood. So, yeah.. I've always been awkward when showing affection in social gatherings.. I remember meeting my ex's family, who were huggy kissy types.. and yeah.. It was extremely awkward and uncomfortable for me. (they actually made fun of me for it.. guess because I was so stiff when they hugged me hahahaha) I've gotten better.. but still have a little anxiety about that kind of stuff..

You're exactly like me!!!


But I no longer have issues getting a big beefy hug from my mother in law or my sister in law.


Back in the day, my sister in law demanded I do it.... and would shame me towards it. So I complied... awkwardly... and then she got my mother in law and me hugging.

I love my mother in law and father in law... they're just really decent people.

These days I just want to shake his hand and hug the shit out of her...

 

[Blazor]

What... with my smile and laugh, you cant resist to follow me somewhere fun lol.

Then it turns out to be a KKK meeting and that's why you haven't been laid in 15 years and spend every weekend on here lol.

You really REALLY dont know me lol.

 

[X]

Intro
100 percent

 

[Lily]

HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol

I'm exactly the same but I care for my wife's family members too... my wife's youngest sibling made it a point to hug me while I squirmed for decades... (I'm not a huggy or kissy person)... then she transferred that momentum towards my mother in law... and fuck me running, I feel good hugging her and she feels good hugging me.

It's become a thing... I don't know why or how it did.... but it's a thing.

My wife and I got married in the 90's...separated after a few years... (youth troubles)... and were hard and fast friends until 2010.... but her family never shut me out. They regularly invited me to visit them...but I never did... I never thought it was proper.

A few years ago my father in law asked me if her and I were real.... and I said "till the end"...


But they always treated me like that anyway... and whatever my inlaw cousins did or do, it's all inclusive.

I have the best inlaw family out there... just a shame that they harp on about vaccines.... and/but I will be inclusive back at them.

My parents weren't very affectionate when I was young..no hugs or kisses.. maybe once or twice in my childhood. So, yeah.. I've always been awkward when showing affection in social gatherings.. I remember meeting my ex's family, who were huggy kissy types.. and yeah.. It was extremely awkward and uncomfortable for me. (they actually made fun of me for it.. guess because I was so stiff when they hugged me hahahaha) I've gotten better.. but still have a little anxiety about that kind of stuff..

My dad was more affectionate than my mom. My mom is only affectionate with little children and babies. After a while, I guess she thought you have to get on with it. But my maternal grandmother was the same, but in a different way.

My grandmother was very engaging intellectually. We had conversations about real life stuff from the time I was just a girl. And that is another form of affection in my mind. Most adults don't engage kids in real conversations. They take care of you, and play with you...but they don't really always engage children.

I do both with my grandson, I'm affectionate and also engage his mind.

 

[Murdy]

Lol, so last night I wound up at a brewery, where 7 other friends met up, and we did a trivia thing. We got 3rd place in both rounds out of 20 groups.

Then one friend said "its only 9 o'clock, lets go do karaoke!" lol. So off I went, sang til 1am lol. Ended with Puff the Magic Tampon hahaha. Did Joy to the World, Monster Mash, Fortunate Son, and Dragula, cant remember a couple others I did with my friend.

My friends are doing this in a private booth tonight dressed in our 70s disco attire. My boyfriend is going as Kojak with a lollipop lol

I will be singing I will survive to kick off the party.

 

[Murdy]

HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol

I'm exactly the same but I care for my wife's family members too... my wife's youngest sibling made it a point to hug me while I squirmed for decades... (I'm not a huggy or kissy person)... then she transferred that momentum towards my mother in law... and fuck me running, I feel good hugging her and she feels good hugging me.

It's become a thing... I don't know why or how it did.... but it's a thing.

My wife and I got married in the 90's...separated after a few years... (youth troubles)... and were hard and fast friends until 2010.... but her family never shut me out. They regularly invited me to visit them...but I never did... I never thought it was proper.

A few years ago my father in law asked me if her and I were real.... and I said "till the end"...


But they always treated me like that anyway... and whatever my inlaw cousins did or do, it's all inclusive.

I have the best inlaw family out there... just a shame that they harp on about vaccines.... and/but I will be inclusive back at them.

My parents weren't very affectionate when I was young..no hugs or kisses.. maybe once or twice in my childhood. So, yeah.. I've always been awkward when showing affection in social gatherings.. I remember meeting my ex's family, who were huggy kissy types.. and yeah.. It was extremely awkward and uncomfortable for me. (they actually made fun of me for it.. guess because I was so stiff when they hugged me hahahaha) I've gotten better.. but still have a little anxiety about that kind of stuff..

My dad was more affectionate than my mom. My mom is only affectionate with little children and babies. After a while, I guess she thought you have to get on with it. But my maternal grandmother was the same, but in a different way.

My grandmother was very engaging intellectually. We had conversations about real life stuff from the time I was just a girl. And that is another form of affection in my mind. Most adults don't engage kids in real conversations. They take care of you, and play with you...but they don't really always engage children.

I do both with my grandson, I'm affectionate and also engage his mind.

This was my relationship with my grandfather <3 <3 <3. I am going to do both with my future grandchildren. I’m gonna have them call me B~Nana cause it’s gonna be bananas lol

 

[Lily]

HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol

I'm exactly the same but I care for my wife's family members too... my wife's youngest sibling made it a point to hug me while I squirmed for decades... (I'm not a huggy or kissy person)... then she transferred that momentum towards my mother in law... and fuck me running, I feel good hugging her and she feels good hugging me.

It's become a thing... I don't know why or how it did.... but it's a thing.

My wife and I got married in the 90's...separated after a few years... (youth troubles)... and were hard and fast friends until 2010.... but her family never shut me out. They regularly invited me to visit them...but I never did... I never thought it was proper.

A few years ago my father in law asked me if her and I were real.... and I said "till the end"...


But they always treated me like that anyway... and whatever my inlaw cousins did or do, it's all inclusive.

I have the best inlaw family out there... just a shame that they harp on about vaccines.... and/but I will be inclusive back at them.

My parents weren't very affectionate when I was young..no hugs or kisses.. maybe once or twice in my childhood. So, yeah.. I've always been awkward when showing affection in social gatherings.. I remember meeting my ex's family, who were huggy kissy types.. and yeah.. It was extremely awkward and uncomfortable for me. (they actually made fun of me for it.. guess because I was so stiff when they hugged me hahahaha) I've gotten better.. but still have a little anxiety about that kind of stuff..

My dad was more affectionate than my mom. My mom is only affectionate with little children and babies. After a while, I guess she thought you have to get on with it. But my maternal grandmother was the same, but in a different way.

My grandmother was very engaging intellectually. We had conversations about real life stuff from the time I was just a girl. And that is another form of affection in my mind. Most adults don't engage kids in real conversations. They take care of you, and play with you...but they don't really always engage children.

I do both with my grandson, I'm affectionate and also engage his mind.

This was my relationship with my grandfather <3 <3 <3. I am going to do both with my future grandchildren. I’m gonna have them call me B~Nana cause it’s gonna be bananas lol

That's an awesome name for gran.

When I'm with my grandson, we read together all the time. I started asking him from the time he was about 2 if the book was a thumbs up or down, what he liked and didn't like. I ask him what the story is about and what it means. For non-fiction we talk about whatever we're reading about, dinosaurs, the solar system, reptiles, fish, mammals, etc

It's a great way to spend time together.

 

[Murdy]

HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol

I'm exactly the same but I care for my wife's family members too... my wife's youngest sibling made it a point to hug me while I squirmed for decades... (I'm not a huggy or kissy person)... then she transferred that momentum towards my mother in law... and fuck me running, I feel good hugging her and she feels good hugging me.

It's become a thing... I don't know why or how it did.... but it's a thing.

My wife and I got married in the 90's...separated after a few years... (youth troubles)... and were hard and fast friends until 2010.... but her family never shut me out. They regularly invited me to visit them...but I never did... I never thought it was proper.

A few years ago my father in law asked me if her and I were real.... and I said "till the end"...


But they always treated me like that anyway... and whatever my inlaw cousins did or do, it's all inclusive.

I have the best inlaw family out there... just a shame that they harp on about vaccines.... and/but I will be inclusive back at them.

My parents weren't very affectionate when I was young..no hugs or kisses.. maybe once or twice in my childhood. So, yeah.. I've always been awkward when showing affection in social gatherings.. I remember meeting my ex's family, who were huggy kissy types.. and yeah.. It was extremely awkward and uncomfortable for me. (they actually made fun of me for it.. guess because I was so stiff when they hugged me hahahaha) I've gotten better.. but still have a little anxiety about that kind of stuff..

My dad was more affectionate than my mom. My mom is only affectionate with little children and babies. After a while, I guess she thought you have to get on with it. But my maternal grandmother was the same, but in a different way.

My grandmother was very engaging intellectually. We had conversations about real life stuff from the time I was just a girl. And that is another form of affection in my mind. Most adults don't engage kids in real conversations. They take care of you, and play with you...but they don't really always engage children.

I do both with my grandson, I'm affectionate and also engage his mind.

This was my relationship with my grandfather <3 <3 <3. I am going to do both with my future grandchildren. I’m gonna have them call me B~Nana cause it’s gonna be bananas lol

That's an awesome name for gran.

When I'm with my grandson, we read together all the time. I started asking him from the time he was about 2 if the book was a thumbs up or down, what he liked and didn't like. I ask him what the story is about and what it means. For non-fiction we talk about whatever we're reading about, dinosaurs, the solar system, reptiles, fish, mammals, etc

It's a great way to spend time together.

That sounds lovely <3

El Big Sexy asked me recently (since my baby sister just got engaged and we are 14 years apart) if I’m going to treat her baby like Aunty or Nana and I told him that she was my first baby, so her baby is going to be MY BABY.

I called her and told her that I’m calling dibs on her baby and we had a good laugh. Then I told her about when she was 4 yo, I caught her playing with Barbie and Ken in her room and asked her what they were doing since she had them laying down on the bed. She told me they were having “the sex.” Being a concerned big sis I asked “what is THE SEX?” and she told me “that’s when a man and a woman lay-down in bed while they kiss and hold each other.” After a huge sigh of relief, I added that they can only do that if they are married lol

I can’t believe she is getting married. My mom is stressing out about the sunset happening during the toast at the engagement party tomorrow night and my baby sister won’t stop staring at her ring lolz

I am hopeful a joyous little bundle will be along soon for me to spoil. I think I’ll follow your lead and do this kind of reading with MY BABY too <3

 

[Lily]

HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol

I'm exactly the same but I care for my wife's family members too... my wife's youngest sibling made it a point to hug me while I squirmed for decades... (I'm not a huggy or kissy person)... then she transferred that momentum towards my mother in law... and fuck me running, I feel good hugging her and she feels good hugging me.

It's become a thing... I don't know why or how it did.... but it's a thing.

My wife and I got married in the 90's...separated after a few years... (youth troubles)... and were hard and fast friends until 2010.... but her family never shut me out. They regularly invited me to visit them...but I never did... I never thought it was proper.

A few years ago my father in law asked me if her and I were real.... and I said "till the end"...


But they always treated me like that anyway... and whatever my inlaw cousins did or do, it's all inclusive.

I have the best inlaw family out there... just a shame that they harp on about vaccines.... and/but I will be inclusive back at them.

My parents weren't very affectionate when I was young..no hugs or kisses.. maybe once or twice in my childhood. So, yeah.. I've always been awkward when showing affection in social gatherings.. I remember meeting my ex's family, who were huggy kissy types.. and yeah.. It was extremely awkward and uncomfortable for me. (they actually made fun of me for it.. guess because I was so stiff when they hugged me hahahaha) I've gotten better.. but still have a little anxiety about that kind of stuff..

My dad was more affectionate than my mom. My mom is only affectionate with little children and babies. After a while, I guess she thought you have to get on with it. But my maternal grandmother was the same, but in a different way.

My grandmother was very engaging intellectually. We had conversations about real life stuff from the time I was just a girl. And that is another form of affection in my mind. Most adults don't engage kids in real conversations. They take care of you, and play with you...but they don't really always engage children.

I do both with my grandson, I'm affectionate and also engage his mind.

This was my relationship with my grandfather <3 <3 <3. I am going to do both with my future grandchildren. I’m gonna have them call me B~Nana cause it’s gonna be bananas lol

That's an awesome name for gran.

When I'm with my grandson, we read together all the time. I started asking him from the time he was about 2 if the book was a thumbs up or down, what he liked and didn't like. I ask him what the story is about and what it means. For non-fiction we talk about whatever we're reading about, dinosaurs, the solar system, reptiles, fish, mammals, etc

It's a great way to spend time together.

That sounds lovely <3

El Big Sexy asked me recently (since my baby sister just got engaged and we are 14 years apart) if I’m going to treat her baby like Aunty or Nana and I told him that she was my first baby, so her baby is going to be MY BABY.

I called her and told her that I’m calling dibs on her baby and we had a good laugh. Then I told her about when she was 4 yo, I caught her playing with Barbie and Ken in her room and asked her what they were doing since she had them laying down on the bed. She told me they were having “the sex.” Being a concerned big sis I asked “what is THE SEX?” and she told me “that’s when a man and a woman lay-down in bed while they kiss and hold each other.” After a huge sigh of relief, I added that they can only do that if they are married lol

I can’t believe she is getting married. My mom is stressing out about the sunset happening during the toast at the engagement party tomorrow night and my baby sister won’t stop staring at her ring lolz

I am hopeful a joyous little bundle will be along soon for me to spoil. I think I’ll follow your lead and do this kind of reading with MY BABY too <3

Yeah, exploring with them is fun, they come up with the most insightful questions and answers, often they're also hilarious.

Congrats of the wedding in your family. It's a blessing.

 

[Murdy]

HAHAHA.. I'd be a tough nut to crack, Blazor LOLOL.. I'm a serious loner.. Have been my whole life.. I get by day to day socially because I have to for work and stuff.. but prefer to be alone :D lol I'm the black sheep of my family.. rarely making an appearance anywhere.. lol

I'm exactly the same but I care for my wife's family members too... my wife's youngest sibling made it a point to hug me while I squirmed for decades... (I'm not a huggy or kissy person)... then she transferred that momentum towards my mother in law... and fuck me running, I feel good hugging her and she feels good hugging me.

It's become a thing... I don't know why or how it did.... but it's a thing.

My wife and I got married in the 90's...separated after a few years... (youth troubles)... and were hard and fast friends until 2010.... but her family never shut me out. They regularly invited me to visit them...but I never did... I never thought it was proper.

A few years ago my father in law asked me if her and I were real.... and I said "till the end"...


But they always treated me like that anyway... and whatever my inlaw cousins did or do, it's all inclusive.

I have the best inlaw family out there... just a shame that they harp on about vaccines.... and/but I will be inclusive back at them.

My parents weren't very affectionate when I was young..no hugs or kisses.. maybe once or twice in my childhood. So, yeah.. I've always been awkward when showing affection in social gatherings.. I remember meeting my ex's family, who were huggy kissy types.. and yeah.. It was extremely awkward and uncomfortable for me. (they actually made fun of me for it.. guess because I was so stiff when they hugged me hahahaha) I've gotten better.. but still have a little anxiety about that kind of stuff..

My dad was more affectionate than my mom. My mom is only affectionate with little children and babies. After a while, I guess she thought you have to get on with it. But my maternal grandmother was the same, but in a different way.

My grandmother was very engaging intellectually. We had conversations about real life stuff from the time I was just a girl. And that is another form of affection in my mind. Most adults don't engage kids in real conversations. They take care of you, and play with you...but they don't really always engage children.

I do both with my grandson, I'm affectionate and also engage his mind.

This was my relationship with my grandfather <3 <3 <3. I am going to do both with my future grandchildren. I’m gonna have them call me B~Nana cause it’s gonna be bananas lol

That's an awesome name for gran.

When I'm with my grandson, we read together all the time. I started asking him from the time he was about 2 if the book was a thumbs up or down, what he liked and didn't like. I ask him what the story is about and what it means. For non-fiction we talk about whatever we're reading about, dinosaurs, the solar system, reptiles, fish, mammals, etc

It's a great way to spend time together.

That sounds lovely <3

El Big Sexy asked me recently (since my baby sister just got engaged and we are 14 years apart) if I’m going to treat her baby like Aunty or Nana and I told him that she was my first baby, so her baby is going to be MY BABY.

I called her and told her that I’m calling dibs on her baby and we had a good laugh. Then I told her about when she was 4 yo, I caught her playing with Barbie and Ken in her room and asked her what they were doing since she had them laying down on the bed. She told me they were having “the sex.” Being a concerned big sis I asked “what is THE SEX?” and she told me “that’s when a man and a woman lay-down in bed while they kiss and hold each other.” After a huge sigh of relief, I added that they can only do that if they are married lol

I can’t believe she is getting married. My mom is stressing out about the sunset happening during the toast at the engagement party tomorrow night and my baby sister won’t stop staring at her ring lolz

I am hopeful a joyous little bundle will be along soon for me to spoil. I think I’ll follow your lead and do this kind of reading with MY BABY too <3

Yeah, exploring with them is fun, they come up with the most insightful questions and answers, often they're also hilarious.

Congrats of the wedding in your family. It's a blessing.

Oh I know! I love children. I’ve been babysitting since I was 14 and I’m still touch with a few of them through social media.

 

[LotusBud]

There's one caveat to my social galavanting, though. I get sick of hanging out with people who aren't that bright. I give them two hours max, and maybe only want to see them once a week max. I can't tolerate more than that.

Six of us are having brunch tomorrow. I look forward to that. All smart and funny.

 

[Frood]

There's one caveat to my social galavanting, though. I get sick of hanging out with people who aren't that bright. I give them two hours max, and maybe only want to see them once a week max. I can't tolerate more than that.

Six of us are having brunch tomorrow. I look forward to that. All smart and funny.

Hanging out with you would be similar to feeding a cow carrots along a fence line... except the cow would have much more wits about them...

 

[Murdy]

There's one caveat to my social galavanting, though. I get sick of hanging out with people who aren't that bright. I give them two hours max, and maybe only want to see them once a week max. I can't tolerate more than that.

Six of us are having brunch tomorrow. I look forward to that. All smart and funny.

Those are my favorite kinds of brunches.

 

[Blurt]

Do you mind the label -- the word itself -- either "introvert" or "extrovert."

I find it too simplistic, and actually really annoying.

Not really. I guess I don't pay too much attention to labels. As long as I understand what someone means when they use one, I'm good.

I've always thought of this whole introvert/extrovert dichotomy as being too stark. Seems to me it's more like being "predominantly other-directed" or "predominantly inner-directed," if that makes sense.

 

[mastersplither]

depends on the day and the trust level

 

[RANCIDMILKO ™ ®©]

depends on the day and the trust level

It should be easy to be an introvert living in Alaska

 

[mastersplither]

It should be easy to be an introvert living in Alaska

I dance with wolves.

 

[Frood]

It should be easy to be an introvert living in Alaska

I dance with wolves.

Must be a thrust level thingy...

 

[mastersplither]

Must be a thrust level thingy...

Tis what the twat said

 

[Frood]

Must be a thrust level thingy...

Tis what the twat said

At least it was a bitch....

 

[mastersplither]

At least it was a bitch....

heard

certainly was the joke, innitt.

 

[Frood]

At least it was a bitch....

heard

certainly was the joke, innitt.

Do we know each other?

 

[LotusBud]

Do you mind the label -- the word itself -- either "introvert" or "extrovert."

I find it too simplistic, and actually really annoying.

Not really. I guess I don't pay too much attention to labels. As long as I understand what someone means when they use one, I'm good.

I've always thought of this whole introvert/extrovert dichotomy as being too stark. Seems to me it's more like being "predominantly other-directed" or "predominantly inner-directed," if that makes sense.

Yes, that makes sense.

The whole thing is too stark imo as well. I really don't believe in either/or in any instance.

My problem, too, is I think a lot of extroverts are, in reality, inner-directed. They want all the attention on them, and they want to do all the bloviating. They don't really notice other people or care to learn about them. Six of us had a dinner a couple of weeks ago. There was one guy there who literally did 90% of the talking, and when he wasn't talking, you could see his eyes glaze over. He wasn't interested in anyone else at all.

But maybe that's just a narcissistic extrovert.

 

[Blazor]

Do you mind the label -- the word itself -- either "introvert" or "extrovert."

I find it too simplistic, and actually really annoying.

Not really. I guess I don't pay too much attention to labels. As long as I understand what someone means when they use one, I'm good.

I've always thought of this whole introvert/extrovert dichotomy as being too stark. Seems to me it's more like being "predominantly other-directed" or "predominantly inner-directed," if that makes sense.

Yes, that makes sense.

The whole thing is too stark imo as well. I really don't believe in either/or in any instance.

My problem, too, is I think a lot of extroverts are, in reality, inner-directed. They want all the attention on them, and they want to do all the bloviating. They don't really notice other people or care to learn about them. Six of us had a dinner a couple of weeks ago. There was one guy there who literally did 90% of the talking, and when he wasn't talking, you could see his eyes glaze over. He wasn't interested in anyone else at all.

But maybe that's just a narcissistic extrovert.

Possibly a narcissistic extrovert, yes. OR might have ADHD, I know folks like that.

Even though Im an extrovert, I believe in the old Injun Feather technique. The person holding the feather gets to speak. These days I simply just try to give the person speaking a good listen lol. A lot of times I wanna bust out and say something, because something might spark something I wanna say. But I know its more important to listen to the one speaking, even if that spark fades away. Eventually I will have a turn to speak. I hate it when someone keeps trying to speak, and constantly gets shut down by others. Thats when I make it a point to interject, and ask them what they were trying to say, its only fair they get to speak too.

 

[Blazor]

I wanna be an extrovert tonight lol.

Tonight is the night the adults celebrate Halloween. Though, I will prolly fly solo. Hate it my lil sis aint around, we would hit the clubs lol. Lot of my other friends dont get into going to clubs. I aint sittin' in this house, thats for damn sure!!!!