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I used to be in serious debt. But together with your man you can make it work. I don’t want to come across as a fuckhead. But I am a millionaire.We are very lucky the pandemic didnt disrupt any of our income. In fact my husband has been working more.
I have some friends who were hit pretty hard. One is a family who relied on the husbands small business. He runs lines and shit like that.....they were doing really well, bought a house they are struggling to afford now and the wife has siezures and they dont know why.
Its picking back up for them though, thankfully. They had to go through all their savings and they are pretty devastated by that.
Seeing what so many people are dealing with really freaked me out, though. It made me very motivated to avoid debt.And I don't want to be a debt slave. Being a millionaire? Meh....I'd do exactly what I'm doing now and just help the outreach I went through or start one.
One of my relatives became a millionaire but came at a high cost.
He died relatively young worth several million dollars.
However, his widow and relatives got to enjoy his wealth long after he was gone.
People who chase wealth and attain it often don't live long because there's so much stress in trying to hang on to that much money.
Ironcially, it's their benefactors who get to enjoy it.
ie - Steve Jobs a case in point. His wife and kids are enjoying the life while he's in the afterlife
Nothing wrong with chasing the buck, but there has to be a balance in one's life.
It's also a fact that a lot of people who chase wealth are pricks, so they don't enjoy life on that level either.
I would rather be comfortably poor (you know, with a roof and enough to eat, and heat) and contented than running myself to ground in an effort to amass wealth. What is the point of it, anyway? To make other people jealous? To show people you're better than them? To own as much stuff as possible? That's just stupid.
There's nothing wrong with chasing money nor having a lot of it.
There are many people who have lots and quite happy.
They have good relationships with others and appear to be quite happy.
I don't begrudge anyone merely for being rich.
More pertinent is the OP's message about making the mistake of trusting those you thought you could, and then getting shortchanged or burned.
I've had that happpen to me in my own family. How certain members promise you something and falsely state that there's something in it for you if you follow and obey them. But of course, they have their agenda. And as the OP pointed out they make mistakes which end up costing you.
These people all think it's fine and dandy to shortchange you like that and you'll forgive them because you're family, but in reality it just strains family relations, and if you get burned by them, you just say "Aw fuck. The next time I'm not gonna bother with you or lend you my financial or moral support in any way."
And of course, it just results in you seeing much less with them and having any a meaningful relationship with them. They're just there, and they became your rivals rather than confidants or friends. And you don't end up revealing your plans to them for fear that they'll screw you over again.
So with relatives or family members like that may as well seek friendship or comfort somewhere else.Heck get a dog. You can trust them more.
It's not just simply being rich or chasing money .....its people who measure their self worth by it.
These are the miserable pricks.