Why does a woman need a fleshlight? To jerk her partna off? My ex had some dildos (and I took offence to an extent), but a lot of the time my winkie couldn’t get hard because of alcohol and weed. A rock hard penis is very important. You don’t necessarily need to be large or girthy (hey, if you’re blessed with both, it defo helps), but being rock hard is of the utmost importance.