My daughter was 19, on bcp, and still got pregnant. I told my girl I would support whichever decision she made.
She decided to keep the baby, my almost 9 year old grandson. I supported her financially through the whole thing, including the cost of maternity care...including delivery through my job. U did that up until about 3 years ago when she married. No welfare check, debt card...nothing.
The father though? They were awful, pushing her to have an abortion. That family had a baby shower where they all behaved like it was a roast. This is where your life ends "daddy"...as they got drunk and high. The dad's grandmother was the only one on that side that was appalled.
He is still a shitty dad.
It's so sad and foul to me whenever people say having a child ends or ruins your life.
Yeah you don't want your teenage daughter getting pregnant and have that harder struggle....BUT....saying a baby will end or ruin your life is just not true and it's a terrible and unsupportive thing to say.
Good for you for standing by your daughter and supporting and helping her. So many parents....including fucking "conservative" ones, will push their daughter to abort.
My daughters both know that having a baby is going to be work and a struggle if you are unprepared but it's also NOT the end of your life and is a beautiful thing. I don't have to worry about my oldest daughter....she has a strict "no penis" policy lol. For her to have a child, they will have go either adopt or take turns carrying their children through artificial insemination.
My 18 year old isn't having sex but she knows very well if she plans to start, let's go get on some birth control and get all that taken care of first.
If any of my daughters became pregnant, they know they have all the help and support they would need.
I don't anticipate an accidental pregnancy but you never know. If it happens, it happens and we will get through it and have a new Squish in the family. I know neither would be interested in abortion at all.
When I had an abortion at 19....i was pushed into it. He made it out like anything besides abortion was insane and irresponsible and I was stupid for even thinking about it. And since we lived at college I was on the other side of the state from my family. So they didn't even know. My grandmother was heart broken. Hated him after that.
And it really messed me up pretty bad for many years. You can bet the "father" was perfectly fine. Didn't impact him at all. *belch*