Look at the comments Chinese men are leaving on Youtube "I was pursuing a women. What I didn't know is that she was also pursued by another man. She chose him. He is a chef. Handsome, good education, good financial and career. I am an ugly man. Poor, lower education, and not in a good financial and career. When I was pursuing her, I didn't care about her condition. I just love her. No requirements. Now I realize although maybe I am the one who love her the most, she will not choose me because my bad condition. If women have options, they will choose the man that is in better condition. In the past, I believed that love could beat everything. How naive I was."