I stayed in a marriage for 14 years so my children could avoid being in a single parent household.
Do I think I need an entire board dedicated to my regurgitating that hell?
And you cheated and yes, Murd....you had an entire board dedicated to your cheat fest with HGB and Farmer
And you fucking flipped and brought it all on the board yourself because Farmer was gonna send hardcopies of your PM convos to your husband and maybe get you "killed".
And YOU brought that to the board. Also YOU are the one who started weeping and wailing about your vulgar fantasies of my life and kids and getting all offended that I didn't "resolve" them by informing you of everyone in MY families status.
Get help for your drinking, Murd. For realreal.
One thing I will say about my kids and how they handled my divorce? They were HAPPY and relieved. Especially my oldest daughter who was beyond disgusted by things my ex did and said to me.
And what's more....they were all absolutely thrilled about me and Shrek. They always wanted to know why Shrek and I were not more than friends. The older ones said "it's about time!". My daughters have always had SO much love and respect for him and he has been there for me...and them....for the past 25 years.
Literally everyone is happier. Everyone. Why don't you look and see how many people say their parents stayed together for them and how traumatic and toxic it was and how they wished their parents had just divorced? The worst shit you can do is stay together for the kids. And adults who lived that shit show will tell you. You see people say this over and over. They wished their parents had divorced.
MOST people do NOT parent at their best nor are they healthy and at their best in a bad and toxic marriage. And not everyone has a situation where both partners see eye to eye on this.
I'm gonna give Lily some credit here. She did good. She got out of her toxic marriage and got good with herself and she was able to foster peace and compassion for her dying ex and created a family unit for him to spend his last days in. That's fucking amazing. It is. Well done on that.
Had she stayed with him? I doubt his last days would have been as warm and peaceful because of all the resentment. Humans are humans. Sometimes not pushing it is the best.