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Grandbabies are EVERYTHING. 10 more weeks until my daughter has her 2nd boy, which is her 2nd and last child.


I have two grandbaby girls and two boys. Youngest is five months. We just found a good daycare provider that I feel comfortable with for him. I’ve had him this past month so my daughter could go back to work. It’s too much tho. I have the other kids as well during the summer and it’s a lot
 
I have two grandbaby girls and two boys. Youngest is five months. We just found a good daycare provider that I feel comfortable with for him. I’ve had him this past month so my daughter could go back to work. It’s too much tho. I have the other kids as well during the summer and it’s a lot
Wow!

You were really made for (Grand)/Motherhood , eh @The Cuntess ?
 
I've always found that the bills are spilt more or less 50/50 in longterm relationships. Healthy relationships are about give and take. There have been times in my life where I've been pretty broke and she has temporarily paid and of course vice versa. Resentment can easily build if one person (of either gender) constantly pays for everything all the time.

Yeah thats different. Once you are locked into a relationship you just naturally start combining everything more. I was talking about vetting ....I mean dating....process.

If a woman wants marriage, though, living with a man before marriage is one of the most dumb fuck things she can do. And yes, im doing the dumb thing lol.
 
I have two grandbaby girls and two boys. Youngest is five months. We just found a good daycare provider that I feel comfortable with for him. I’ve had him this past month so my daughter could go back to work. It’s too much tho. I have the other kids as well during the summer and it’s a lot

I cant even imagine.

You know there are women out there at our age having babies still?

If i found out im pregnant now, im immediately driving myself off a cliff lol
 
If a woman wants marriage, though, living with a man before marriage is one of the most dumb fuck things she can do. And yes, im doing the dumb thing lol.

I am not sure that I agree.

Living together gives you a better idea of what it will be like when (and if) you get married.

My wife and I lived together for about 6 years before we got married. It turned out that we enjoy each other's company when we spend so much time together, but we may have found out that we are not really compatible.

I am trying to say it could prevent a couple from making a big mistake.
 
Wow!

You were really made for (Grand)/Motherhood , eh @The Cuntess ?

What a fucking stupid question.

Most if not all women have the maternal instincts that seem to have been omitted from your childhood, as you grew up in that Little House On The Prarie.

Flea, I believe makes a great grandmother and mother. Same with the rest of the ladles out here...i.e...Dove, Iggy, and @jack .

Joe, here's some advice. You wanna kinda be accepted around here? THEN QUIT BEING YOURSELF!!!!!
 
Yeah thats different. Once you are locked into a relationship you just naturally start combining everything more. I was talking about vetting ....I mean dating....process.

If a woman wants marriage, though, living with a man before marriage is one of the most dumb fuck things she can do. And yes, im doing the dumb thing lol.

I can only speak on my experiences.

When I was dating my husband he paid for everything early on which was nice. As our relationship evolved there would be those times where he would try to pay for something I wanted, and I would decline the offer and pay myself.

As our love blossomed it wasn't about who paid, it was more about the convenience. I'm a credit card gal, where my husband is strictly a cash guy. So naturally we went to some places in New York City that only took cash on our honeymoon, and my hubby paid that. Then there would be times the establishments would not accept cash and I paid that.

I think if two people sync well then it becomes just a pattern on who and how things are paid. This only works if both parties are bringing something to the table financially. Having only one partner bringing in the bread makes it difficult as it may seem like the other person is receiving an allowance everytime they need monetary help.

I don't think you're dumb for living with someone before marriage. I actually think people should do that before they get married as a trial before the real thing. Nothing worse than marrying the person of your dreams only to find out you're both not compatible under one roof. I've seen it.
 
I am not sure that I agree.

Living together gives you a better idea of what it will be like when (and if) you get married.

My wife and I lived together for about 6 years before we got married. It turned out that we enjoy each other's company when we spend so much time together, but we may have found out that we are not really compatible.

I am trying to say it could prevent a couple from making a big mistake.

MORE times than not, its a mistake and women will waste years of their life waiting for their boyfriend to actually make the commitment.

If you live together and have enmeshed your lives its harder on every level to walk away and a lot of men are not you. Men will string women along and find every small excuse to not marry for years and years.

I havent had this happen to me but ive seen it happen and its brutal.

In my experince men seem to know early on if they will commit with marriage and they'll make that known in the first year. I dont think its wise for women to ever bring it up, because men will play games and manipulate and future fake and if you just ask simple questions and let them talk, they'll tell on themselves and their intentions.

Like ask them neutral questions about the future and see if he talks about with YOU in it. That will tell you if you are a place holder or a forever girlfriend.

I wouldnt want to be so enmeshed with someone for years and years, only to be reminded im legally no one to this person if the worst happens and they end up in ICU and suddenly their sibling has to make all their decisions because you are not the next of kin.
 
I can only speak on my experiences.

When I was dating my husband he paid for everything early on which was nice. As our relationship evolved there would be those times where he would try to pay for something I wanted, and I would decline the offer and pay myself.

As our love blossomed it wasn't about who paid, it was more about the convenience. I'm a credit card gal, where my husband is strictly a cash guy. So naturally we went to some places in New York City that only took cash on our honeymoon, and my hubby paid that. Then there would be times the establishments would not accept cash and I paid that.

I think if two people sync well then it becomes just a pattern on who and how things are paid. This only works if both parties are bringing something to the table financially. Having only one partner bringing in the bread makes it difficult as it may seem like the other person is receiving an allowance everytime they need monetary help.

I don't think you're dumb for living with someone before marriage. I actually think people should do that before they get married as a trial before the real thing. Nothing worse than marrying the person of your dreams only to find out you're both not compatible under one roof. I've seen it.

Exactly.

And no im not worried about living with my guy lol. We have a 30 year history so I definately am not getting rid of this one.

I just entered this relationship right during a rather disturbing, high stress divorce so im not exactly prioritizing marriage. We know we want the protections and benefits so we will eventually just do it at the court house. Neither of us are even slightly interested in some wedding.

Do it at the court house, have a nice dinner and maybe spend a weekend at some cute bed and breakfast were will probably just freak out over the animals lol. We already share medical insurance, car insurance and im on his bank account (our bank account now) so we are pretty much 3/4s of the way there anyway lol.
 
A fucking minefield, particularly these days Lol.
I know lol.

Men have some next level audacity today. If i agreed to a date and some man actually asked me "what do you bring to the table" I would get right up and LEAVE.

Just flat out ask "so what can I get out of you that will benefit MY life?" Because thats what that is saying.

Like some job interview to be someones fuckable whirlpool they install into their THEIR life. Isnt dating supposed to be finding out if you even have a connection? Like figure THAT out first lol.

Im an old fashioned kind of man eater.
 
Exactly.

And no im not worried about living with my guy lol. We have a 30 year history so I definately am not getting rid of this one.

I just entered this relationship right during a rather disturbing, high stress divorce so im not exactly prioritizing marriage. We know we want the protections and benefits so we will eventually just do it at the court house. Neither of us are even slightly interested in some wedding.

Do it at the court house, have a nice dinner and maybe spend a weekend at some cute bed and breakfast were will probably just freak out over the animals lol. We already share medical insurance, car insurance and im on his bank account (our bank account now) so we are pretty much 3/4s of the way there anyway lol.

You guys knew each other for a while, and that's an advantage most people don't have.

I agree, just get married at the courthouse, pay the fee, and be officially "together." Maybe have a private ceremony with close friends and family. Then like you said, take maybe a mini honeymoon.

You guys are basically married already so you have a leg up. I hope you guys stay happy forever. Good luck to you guys. Best wishes.
 
I've always found that the bills are spilt more or less 50/50 in longterm relationships. Healthy relationships are about give and take.v

^This. It's not about me not having enough money, it's about feeling used or taken advantage of.

Im an old fashioned kind of man eater.


I dated countless women over the years, I recall one in particular. An attractive readhead who was divorced from a weathy guy who managed a large Costco and I guess was rather spoiled. On our first date she said she always expected the man to pay, as she was a "good old fashioned girl" with old fashioned values. But of course she was all about women's rights and all that.

I said I'll be happy to pay for every meal going forward but she sure better like a double cheeseburger meal because that's all she'll be getting.

There was no second date.
 
I just entered this relationship right during a rather disturbing, high stress divorce so im not exactly prioritizing marriage. We know we want the protections and benefits so we will eventually just do it at the court house. Neither of us are even slightly interested in some wedding.

I agree, just get married at the courthouse, pay the fee, and be officially "together." Maybe have a private ceremony with close friends and family.

Neither me or my wife planned to marry again but there were huge benefits related to moving to Greece and getting permanent residency, and also giving her US citizenship if and when we wanted to spend long periods of time there.

I had recently hired a new financial advisor to handle what would now be international funds, and he mentioned he's an ordained minister and could marry us. Our wedding consisted of the two of us, the financial advisor/minister and my dad in an Italian restaurant. We signed the marriage certificate over Chicken Marsala.
 
Neither me or my wife planned to marry again but there were huge benefits related to moving to Greece and getting permanent residency, and also giving her US citizenship if and when we wanted to spend long periods of time there.

I had recently hired a new financial advisor to handle what would now be international funds, and he mentioned he's an ordained minister and could marry us. Our wedding consisted of the two of us, the financial advisor/minister and my dad in an Italian restaurant. We signed the marriage certificate over Chicken Marsala.
Was the restaurant called stelios?
 
I don't like any of you, 'cause "Online" = "Pretend" and I don't actually know any of you.

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^This. It's not about me not having enough money, it's about feeling used or taken advantage of.




I dated countless women over the years, I recall one in particular. An attractive readhead who was divorced from a weathy guy who managed a large Costco and I guess was rather spoiled. On our first date she said she always expected the man to pay, as she was a "good old fashioned girl" with old fashioned values. But of course she was all about women's rights and all that.

I said I'll be happy to pay for every meal going forward but she sure better like a double cheeseburger meal because that's all she'll be getting.

There was no second date.

I would NOT have a dinner with someone as a first date.

A few hours of intense socail interaction is draining for me and if im investing it I want to make sure I can at LEAST tolerate the person.

Coffee and a walk. He can buy a meal for me after ive established we get along well enough to sit across from eachother long enough to eat and ive back ground checked him and we have chatted enough to make sure those initial red flags are not present.

I won't even tell a man what I expect. Ill let him be himself and go from there.
 
I would NOT have a dinner with someone as a first date.

A few hours of intense socail interaction is draining for me and if im investing it I want to make sure I can at LEAST tolerate the person.

Coffee and a walk. He can buy a meal for me after ive established we get along well enough to sit across from eachother long enough to eat and ive back ground checked him and we have chatted enough to make sure those initial red flags are not present.

I won't even tell a man what I expect. Ill let him be himself and go from there.
Why are you thinking about these things when you have found your one and only true life partner who you will never leave?
 
Why are you thinking about these things when you have found your one and only true life partner who you will never leave?

Because it was the topic.

Do you think that once a person is in a committed relationship their past dating methods and opinions cease to exist?

I have daughters, guess who they go to for guidance navigating the cesspool of dating? Should I say "hey sorry kid! I have a boyfriend!"

Lmao.
 
I would NOT have a dinner with someone as a first date.

A few hours of intense socail interaction is draining for me and if im investing it I want to make sure I can at LEAST tolerate the person.

Coffee and a walk. He can buy a meal for me after ive established we get along well enough to sit across from eachother long enough to eat and ive back ground checked him and we have chatted enough to make sure those initial red flags are not present.

I won't even tell a man what I expect. Ill let him be himself and go from there.

It's 2026. I'd make the bitches buy me a lobster dinner. Equality and shit, yo.
 
Many pardons, you seemed to be speaking of future encounters - what you would do.

In a hypothetical circumstance that I was on a date, I know what I would and would not do or tolerate and what I would advise other women to do or not do.

Kind of like war vet giving combat advice. We dont plan to be in the trenches.....but we know how to survive them.