Not really. I've had girlfriends in the past but nothing too serious, I only know that divorce can be awful because my stepsister went through a nasty one. Years of love only to end in fights and hard feelings. I don't know what it is with marriage these days, they don't seem to last very long. There are exceptions though. My grandmother is dead but she and her husband were married for 60 years, now that's commitment.
My grands were married for 50+ too.
I think that people get into relationships for the wrong reasons and when things aren’t going well, they take it out on each other.
I did marriage counseling several times. Nothing is going to change a philandering jackass tho, so I inevitably gave up and it was not easy to walk away from 24 years together, but I did and I’m grateful I had the strength to do that.
6 years single and then I got a DM from an old friend from HS… and now we are engaged.
But the thing that got me to let my guard down fully with this one is that we are both on the same page when it comes to being traditionalists. He told me when we were dating that he wanted what his grands had and I was like “SAME!”
Givers need to find givers or it’s just not going to work. We are both generous with attention and affection, so it works for us. We have our moments, but we maintain mutual respect.
The best thing I learned in marriage counseling was the weekly check in:
How are you?
How are we?
What do you need?
It helps
