Damn so sorry to hear that
You were so excited about moving
But maybe something better will come up
what was wrong with the home?
LONG POST ALERT
Something better has already came up. I'm staying here.
It wasn't the house with the problem. It's my in laws and my husband. They have no respect for boundaries and no respect for marriage. I'm legit floored and I'm still not sure I know entirely what happened....but I don't even care. It involved so much dishonesty and manipulation just to get me back in the metro area.
Welp here I am....back in the gotdamn metro area so this insane plan worked.... and all that house shit wasn't what I believed it was. His fucking mother bought it. And he was having us buy it from her.....which makes NO sense at ALL. NONE. So even though we could have bought it ourselves, he decided he wanted to save money and let his mom buy it and what the fuck. He didn't tell me this because he knew I'd be against it. So think about THAT. I'm am SO SICK of having all these other people in my marriage. And I don't have anyone on my side in it to counter this.....except my bestie ....who they have tried to recruit BTW to no avail because he is MY people.
OH and to make it even worse? She was about to lay down conditions. So it's a control maneuver as usual. It seems neither of them considered the possibility that I simply wouldn't go.
They figured they could get me out of the old house and in a time sensitive situation stuck at my best friend's house and then I would have no choice but to do it. So this was using my Mike(my bestie) to manipulate me into something I'm passionately opposed to.
And my friend didn't even know....I mean HE would have told me immediately. So he is beyond disgusted and tells me I'm good to just live here with him. That's what I'm doing. Yes with my mother, kids and pets.
I'm staying put. He has MS(it hasn't been an issue in 5 years but still) and he is here alone and has a ton of stuff to do and I've been helping him and just being here. And it feels so good to be here right now. I feel like I'm home. Well I AM home....I grew up here lol. And it's so awesome having my daughters here where I spent so much of my youth. And seeing my bestie with them.
He ordered baskets....and grass and toys and candy and all this stuff for Easter and went to his room and put togther Easter baskets and he shit on my usual way of doing things (not telling them the Easter bunny is a thing) ....and told my daughter he saw the Easter bunny sniffing around. And guys....it made me cry. I'm now playing Easter bunny shit.
I'm just angry. Processing. And enjoying everyday.....yes I'm actually very happy here....but still upset and angry about the fuckery. It's betrayal. I'm just all over the fucking place.
And there us no communication with my husband and I and now I don't trust it at all. His mother meddling has been a problem for a very long time and I thought we mostly moved past it. I was told there was mold in the house as some cover story to delay telling me what was happening.
So that's what is going on. I've been too floored to post. And spending most all my time with my kids and my friend.
And as fucked up and devastating and humiliating as this is......I'm so happy. I wasn't prepared to be SO happy here where I am....so I don't even WANT to leave. This has always been a safe place for me and this guy has always had my back and taken care of my stupid ass for nearly 3 decades.
So for now and the foreseeable future I am home.
So yeah guys I just had a huge ass plot twist.
I separated again. I don't know what's going to happen. I'm so angry and disappointed that I was working on it and doing everything....everything I should be doing. ...and this disrespect and disregard still occured. As far as I'm concerned he can go live in his mother's house and be under her rules and I'm gonna stay right here with the man who has been here for me and had my back for 28 years and I'll put my energy into him. I've been worried to the point of panick attacks over his MS and how he just took care of his dying mother and would be here alone if not for me.
So you guys see me posting mushy shit and about my "bestie" that's why. I've been leaning on him mentally and emotionally for years anyway ......I'm not fucking him or having an affair ....so I'm making that clear. But I'm absolutely bonded emotionally more to him right now than the man I'm married to. Of course I have 28 years with my friend. He has seen me through SO MUCH SHIT. So much.
And I cannot do this shit anymore. Dealing with the same problems over and over and thinking it's changed when all that happened was it got sneakier and more manipulative. If I gotta be in area I hate ....I'm gonna be in a place I love and feel safe with someone who is always on my 1side who needs me and appreciates me and who has NEVER gone behind my back ever.
So this is what I'm doing now and why I'm saying more about bestie than anyone else.
