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I've always wondered if Bourdain was seriously sick, with cancer or something like that
He didn't strike me as the kind that would kill himself
That would explain a lot.He was heavily addicted to heroin
That would explain a lot.
Yeah, I watched his shows on CNN and the Travel Channel tooI’ve read he battle his addiction for years. I loved the guy
He was heavily addicted to heroin
Most heroin addicts never kick. Not to mention picking up hepatitis
Many will stay clean for years and years before they relapse.
It requires authentic and ongoing recovery and self awareness. Away from "recovery communities" as well. That sounds strange, right?
But if you have people sitting in a circle a few times a week saying "and I'm an addict" and people who believe they have an incurable disease they stay in that mindset. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Everytime I see those "days clean" countdown apps from people in the program it makes me sad because it's always a countdown to their relapse. I maintain that groups like NA/AA are cults that are a revolving door of addicts who never move on from their use and never get past that first "step".
Those first two years are the hardest because chemically the brain is healing. When you've flooded it with dopamine, it stops making it on it's own. So your brain is deprived of dopamine for a while. It's a slow healing process. This is where a lot of people fall off. It is extremely hard to go through, you dont realize how important that chemical is until your brain has none of it. It takes about two years for the brain to start producing adequate dopamine again.
After that it definately should not be a "daily struggle to stay clean". It never was for me or my husband. You couldnt pay us to go back into that deep dark mess no matter how crappy we felt. Your worst day clean is better than your best day using. When people say it's a "daily struggle" they are not doing the work you need to do to truly rebuild your life. Like any trauma there comes a point where it has to be in the past. You cant make it part of your identity. It's a horrible thing you went through
......not a persons whole identity. Way too many people root their identity in it and I think that's part of why they fall off.
Addiction is a symptom of deeper problem....not the problem itself. Focusing on the addiction itself is like slapping a band aid on a gun shot wound and trying to go back to work.
My mother has been a drunk her entire life. She hasnt had a drink in 8 years, but shes still very much a dry drunk. Shes not healthy....shes just sober. I dont expect her to ever truly recover. I dont think she even knows any different. If she was left on her own it would be a matter of months before she was on the street drinking herself too death. I'd still rather her like this than drinking.
I could have sworn, you had me on ignore
My father drank himself to death, he was a violent old bastard, when I got the phone call to say he was dead I felt nothing, I didn’t go to his funeral, he put booze before us so got planted alone .i don’t even have one photo of him, I wouldn’t even want to look at his bloated ugly face the bog Irish cunt.Many will stay clean for years and years before they relapse.
It requires authentic and ongoing recovery and self awareness. Away from "recovery communities" as well. That sounds strange, right?
But if you have people sitting in a circle a few times a week saying "and I'm an addict" and people who believe they have an incurable disease they stay in that mindset. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Everytime I see those "days clean" countdown apps from people in the program it makes me sad because it's always a countdown to their relapse. I maintain that groups like NA/AA are cults that are a revolving door of addicts who never move on from their use and never get past that first "step".
Those first two years are the hardest because chemically the brain is healing. When you've flooded it with dopamine, it stops making it on it's own. So your brain is deprived of dopamine for a while. It's a slow healing process. This is where a lot of people fall off. It is extremely hard to go through, you dont realize how important that chemical is until your brain has none of it. It takes about two years for the brain to start producing adequate dopamine again.
After that it definately should not be a "daily struggle to stay clean". It never was for me or my husband. You couldnt pay us to go back into that deep dark mess no matter how crappy we felt. Your worst day clean is better than your best day using. When people say it's a "daily struggle" they are not doing the work you need to do to truly rebuild your life. Like any trauma there comes a point where it has to be in the past. You cant make it part of your identity. It's a horrible thing you went through
......not a persons whole identity. Way too many people root their identity in it and I think that's part of why they fall off.
Addiction is a symptom of deeper problem....not the problem itself. Focusing on the addiction itself is like slapping a band aid on a gun shot wound and trying to go back to work.
My mother has been a drunk her entire life. She hasnt had a drink in 8 years, but shes still very much a dry drunk. Shes not healthy....shes just sober. I dont expect her to ever truly recover. I dont think she even knows any different. If she was left on her own it would be a matter of months before she was on the street drinking herself too death. I'd still rather her like this than drinking.
I was talking to an acquaints in the tec bus. Many are eyeing Mexico as the next tec center. China is too far away, with too many problems. If this were true, I believe it would change some immigration issues.
That is in part, a big reason why we did NAFTA.I was talking to an acquaints in the tec bus. Many are eyeing Mexico as the next tec center. China is too far away, with too many problems. If this were true, I believe it would change some immigration issues.